Lots of moms do it all: a full-time job, housework, cooking, laundry, and the constant care that toddlers and babies demand. But how many do it all at once or even think that’s possible?
I’m here to tell you that it is. It’s not easy, but it’s possible.
Right now, I work a full-time job from home…and I have two toddlers who are home with me all day. I’m constantly switching between “mom mode” and “employee mode,” going from answering emails to changing diapers in a matter of minutes. It isn’t easy, but I’m doing it.
I’m not saying that everyone should do this. Honestly, it’s not what I’d prefer to be doing, but in this economy, it’s the reality of my situation. I’m just here to give my advice and tell you that it’s possible. If you have a work-from-home job and don’t want to send your kiddos to daycare, then keep reading for my tips for juggling this insane (but rewarding) life.
How Can I Get Any Work Done With Toddlers?
Some days are easier than others for a variety of reasons: workload, toddler cooperation, help from spouse or family member. I’m going to base my advice on a typical day with two toddlers.
Take advantage of naptime: This is a big one. I get a lot done while my kids are sleeping. It was a lot easier when they were taking multiple naps, but right now they’re down to one a day, maybe two if I’m really lucky. I take full advantage of that uninterrupted time to knock out new projects, reply to emails, and work ahead if I’m able to.
Teach independent play: Even when my kids were still babies, I prioritized letting them have independent play every day. Whether that meant on a mat on the other side of the room with some toys or time in their bed with books, I taught my kids how to play on their own without needing me to entertain them every minute. That has freed up a lot of time for me to focus on knocking out work. (Side note, two kids are easier than one in this regard because they have a built-in playmate!)
Use screen time if you have to: I’m not a huge fan of screen time and will never allow an iPad into my home; however, there are days when the last resort is putting on Max & Ruby or Spidey and His Amazing Friends. I limit their screen time, but sometimes putting on a show is the only way to get them to settle down and give me time to do some work.
How Do I Stop Feeling Like I’m Failing Both Work and Motherhood?
Listen, there are days when it’s going to be rough, and you’ll feel like you’re failing all the way around. Nothing will go your way, you’ll make mistakes in your work, or you’ll feel the gripping mom guilt that you’re not giving 100% of your attention to your children.
It sucks, but the truth is that if you have to work, you have to work. That’s a part of taking care of your kids. By working, you’re providing food and shelter for them. You’re doing your best. And ultimately, your kids come first. If your kids really need you, the email or project can wait. It’ll all work out—your kids are your priority.
The reality is that you’re working two full-time jobs at the same time. Don’t beat yourself up. Don’t feel bad if some things fall through the cracks sometimes. You’re only built to handle so much, and the invisible mental load is real. I’m constantly going through my running mental checklist: feed the dogs, make lunch, change diapers, put the laundry in the dryer, order wipes, put away laundry, add milk to the grocery list—it goes on and on.
Perfection isn’t the goal. Perfection is always going to be impossible! But your children don’t need a perfect mother, and your job doesn’t need a perfect employee. All we can do is our very best—that’s enough.
Working from home with toddlers is messy, sometimes isolating, overwhelming, rewarding, beautiful, and insane all at once. Nothing beats the advantage your kids have by being home with you all day.